Trying to help isn't always helpful

At least for my kids.

Gayle, the assistant director in the daycare, is a nice lady, and she is a mother of two, too. From time to time, she offered some advice to me, most of which were quite professional and therefore I like her and we often chat a bit or the kids like to say bye to her before we leave for home. So one night after I got both kids out of their classrooms, right before I began to get down toPeter and help him put his coat on, she happened to come out of her office and stepped over. She took one of Peter's arms "Gayle is tricky" she said so, at the same time she was trying to get it in the sleeve, when all of a sudden, Peter got irritated and began to throw himself onto the floor, screaming. Well, Gayle had to leave us alone with no sucess and I ended up picking up my little boy, who hasn't been throwing any tantrum at all recently, and did the dressing from the start as usual all by myself. I knew Gayle was only try to give me a hand, but I felt bad for her because I knew my kids just hate to be touched by someone they don't feel close enough to.

So this afternoon, when we went into the preschool's room, Yaya as usual was still sitting on the floor, listening to type stories. Peter sat down with me for a while, then he noticed there's a toy phone on the counter right before the story was over. As I was helping Yaya getting ready to go, Peter took the phone with him . It was not until a teacher came up to us that I noticed the toy in Peter's hand. Before I could say anything to Peter, the teacher tried to persuade Peter to give the phone back. Of course he fought, even began to raise his voice. Now, based on the previous experience, I held Peter up and walked away from the teacher, calmly said "Peter, let's say bye-bye to the phone, OK?" Believe it or not, my little boy actually voluntarily put the phone back and waved bye to it.

Well, I know sometimes a third person's interference is good, but in the cases for my little ones, most of the time others' help barely works.

But, at least now we know.