The annual parent-teacher conference is coming up in the daycare. i am wondering what to say to Peter's teacher. As a baby, i don't think i really care about his curriculum or anything, i just want to make sure he can get as much attention as possible--eat well, sleep well and play safely. There has been more than twice that I found Peter was sitting there crying without being taken care of when i opened the door of the classroom from outside. The first time, Vera(the lead teacher) was talking to one kid's mom and Peter was just sitting next to her feet, crying hard. I went over right away and picked him up. Vera didn't even explain to me why she didn't check on him. I was very mad and upset since she left without a word, but it turned out the kid whose mom Vera was talking to bit someone that day, and Vera was confronting the mom with this matter. After being told the reason, I didn't feel that bad anymore--i can understand it is not an easy situation for the teacher to handle. Then the second time, while i was taking my shoes off out of the classroom, i heard the messy noise in the room. Upon opening the door, i saw Sora(youngest girl in the class) was holded by someone, crying badly. Vera was standing there, trying to explain something to that temporary teacher. I didn't even pay much attention to Peter first, until his cry directed my attention. He was sitting on the floor with another substitute teacher, crying. While i rushed over to pick him up, the substitute teacher told me he just woke up not long ago. Then Vera must have noticed that i was not so happy to see all of this, and came up to me and emphasized how she just changed Peter(i don't quite get it why she keeps on mentioning about the diaper changing whenever parents go in the room at the end of a day), how she stayed until now(around 5:30pm) while she should have been off by 5pm. I don't know whether i am too hard on her or not, i just couldn't be convinced by these excuses for the mess in the room. She left pretty soon with i holding Peter, while Sora was still loudly crying...I don't know, maybe in this country, you off work means that you just don't care anymore? i am sure if i were the teacher in an infant room, i just couldn't let myself go home with a little one crying like that. Plus, I have been told that Sora had been very fussy that whole day and other teacher suggested to call her parents, Vera simply refused... I don't know, maybe she did that out of consideration for working parents, but in my own opinion, at least you should let them know about the fact and see what they prefer to do. They don't have to leave work and get the kid home, but at least they deserve to know that their little one is suffering, or they might have some experience or suggestion on calming her down. Now Vera's daughter is in the class too. I don't mind it as long as she can do a good job taking care of other kids. But is she?
Anyway, i don't feel comfortable to confront the teacher face to face about my concern---maybe i should, people will say. But i am a little afraid or hesitated since Peter still will stay in that room. Parents want to get together for a meeting before holiday coming, and i will see how they feel about this room.

I am much better with Yaya's room. The teacher team is very good, and Yaya becomes more and more social and open. The only thing, I guess, i still need to ask the teachers to work on with me, is to help Yaya to be more bravely speak up for herself whenever needed.