Kiss

To avoid grandprants' lecture, I decide to post this one in English.

Days ago, when I was picking up Yaya from Kindergarten sort of earlier than normal, I happened to notice something unusual among those kindgarteners. One American girl was trying to kiss another boy on his lips. I was sort of shocked but did not think too much about it.

So yesterday, after I got both kids, Peter wanted me to lift him up so that he could take a closer look at the pictures posted in the hall way. While lifting Peter, I turned my head around to watch what Yaya was up to. What I saw was: A boy (yaya's classmate) who had walked to the door with his mom, came back to Yaya, who was standing there back to me and waiting, and he got so close to Yaya that even though I could not see what they did, all of a sudden, I realized that they might have KISSED based on the other day's experience.

IT BOTHERED ME! IT BOTHERED ME SOOOOO MUCH, THAT I DIDN'T KNOW WHAT TO DO OR SAY TO MY OWN DAUGHTER. I KEEP TELLING MYSELF:"BE COOL. FIRST MAKE SURE WHAT REALLY HAPPENED, THEN COMMENT."

I tried so hard to stay calm until we arrive home and Peter went playing his trains by himself. I called Yaya over.

--Hey, yaya!
--What?
--Come here. Mama wants to chat with you.
--OK.
.....
--Yaya, when you stood in the hallway before we left school, mommy saw XXX came up to you. What did you guys do?
--Nothing. Why? Why do you ask?
--Nothing. I saw he came back to you, and just wondered what you guys did.
--We just did what you and Peter did. We looked at the pictures hanging on the wall.
--Yaya, I am not sure I am right. But i hope you can tell me the truth. Mommy will not do anything to you, but I want to know the truth.....(I must have been desperate, because I feel like I am so talktive all of a sudden; I wanted to shut up, but my mouth just kept talking and my words kept coming out) tell mommy, did xxx kiss you?

Yaya did not say "yes" nor "no". But instead, she said,:"you know, Ms Kelly has said we can not kiss when we start kindergarten, but some kids, they just like to do it."
"How about you? Do you like it?" I asked.
"Noooooo,no. But XXX likes to kiss me."

That I can believe. XXX is a very sensitive boy with a single parent. I was once told by another parent that one day XXX brought in a ring for Yaya, but Yaya refused to accept it, which resulted in his heartbroken crying. Another time, XXX's mom told some other parent that he declared at home that he would only marry Yaya when he grows up. On one hand, I know it is tough for a kid without dad, and basically I sympathize the kid and his mom; on the other, I hate to let my own daughter get involved with any emotions too early. Yaya is a girl with a very soft heart, who knows clearly about right and wrong. She is kind enough so that almost all the kids like her and can get along with her; but in the mean time, she is a pleaser and I am worried that she does not know how to say "no".

Anyway, I did not what else I could do, so I responded to Yaya:" You know, if XXX kisses you next time, you should politely let him know that you do not like it. Tell him it spreads germs..."

I, even myself, can not figure out how I came up with such an excuse. I decided to put an end to it because, i don't know what else to say to my daughter.

Later, I discussed with hubby. "what if Yaya grows up to have some problem with kissing someone she loves? Maybe I should not have said 'spread germs'? But what should I have done?"

Is it just me? I really think 5-year-old is too young to kiss around.